Which Fuel Are You Running On?
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Which Fuel Are You Running On?

Are you doing what you're doing because of something?

Or in spite of someone?

Both will get you moving. But only one is sustainable.

'In spite of' belongs to whoever you're proving wrong. It's exhausting.

'Because of' is yours. It doesn't collapse when they stop paying attention.

What are you doing right now, and why are you really doing it?

Read the full post on the blog (link in bio).

Inward. Onward. Go.

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Some People Miss the Old Me
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Some People Miss the Old Me

Not everyone celebrates when you grow.

Some people get confused.
Some get uncomfortable.
Some get quieter.
Some push harder.

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I Let My No Stand
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I Let My No Stand

I tried to be calm after I said no.

It lasted about twelve minutes.

Then I wrote the follow-up.
Deleted it.
Rewrote it.
Deleted it again.

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No Is a Complete Sentence
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No Is a Complete Sentence

For most of my life, “no” came with a paragraph. I’m sorry. I wish I could. Let me explain. Maybe next time. Here’s why.

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The Moment You Realize "Fine" Isn't Enough
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The Moment You Realize "Fine" Isn't Enough

I was standing in front of my refrigerator at 11:30 at night, staring at shelves full of food I didn't want. I wasn't hungry. I was looking for something else entirely.

New on the blog: what happens when 'fine' stops being enough."

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Welcome to The Returning Project
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Welcome to The Returning Project

I keep almost remembering her. The woman I was before I was told who to be.

Maybe you know what I mean. Somewhere between the roles and the responsibilities, between being someone's wife or mother or daughter or employee, between saying yes when you meant no and shrinking to keep the peace, you forgot her too.

This is what The Returning Project is about. Not becoming someone new. Returning to someone you already are.

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